Happy Mothers Day to all women everywhere!
I was on Facebook the other day and I saw someone had shared a link to a blog post that looked interesting to me. Here is the link: http://timewarpwife.com/?p=3120
It was a open letter from a non-mom to her pastor about mothers day. It was so well written and so sincere. I actually really enjoyed reading it and it open my eyes to the wide spectrum of motherhood. Here is the part of the letter I really enjoyed as it pointed out all the different “mothers out there”.
To those who gave birth this year to their first child—we celebrate with you
To those who lost a child this year – we mourn with you
To those who are in the trenches with little ones every day and wear the badge of food stains – we appreciate you
To those who experienced loss through miscarriage, failed adoptions, or running away—we mourn with you
To those who walk the hard path of infertility, fraught with pokes, prods, tears, and disappointment – we walk with you. Forgive us when we say foolish things. We don’t mean to make this harder than it is.
To those who are foster moms, mentor moms, and spiritual moms – we need you
To those who have warm and close relationships with your children – we celebrate with you
To those who have disappointment, heart ache, and distance with your children – we sit with you
To those who lost their mothers this year – we grieve with you
To those who experienced abuse at the hands of your own mother – we acknowledge your experience
To those who lived through driving tests, medical tests, and the overall testing of motherhood – we are better for having you in our midst
To those who are single and long to be married and mothering your own children – we mourn that life has not turned out the way you longed for it to be
To those who step-parent – we walk with you on these complex paths
To those who envisioned lavishing love on grandchildren -yet that dream is not to be, we grieve with you
To those who will have emptier nests in the upcoming year – we grieve and rejoice with you
To those who placed children up for adoption — we commend you for your selflessness and remember how you hold that child in your heart
And to those who are pregnant with new life, both expected and surprising –we anticipate with you
This Mother’s Day, we walk with you. Mothering is not for the faint of heart and we have real warriors in our midst. We remember you.
- See more at: http://timewarpwife.com/?p=3120#sthash.drHCs0tZ.dpuf
Wow, right?! I just loved it! I greatly appreciate my mom, my mother in law, but I also really appreciate my sister who is yet to become a mother, and my dear friends and family who love and care for my children. I wanted to make sure that all women feel celebrated today. Thank you to all the women in my life, today I celebrate you! To all who hold children in their arms, and to those who hold children in their hearts. <3
I wanted to individually thank 3 major women in my life.
First off I want to say how much I love and appreciate my own dear mother. She is a rock in my stormy life. She is someone who is solid in her beliefs and have always been there for me, she has never wavered from her calling as a mother. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that my dear mom was my mother in heaven and I have ALWAYS been a member of my family. I was placed exactly and directly were I was always supposed to be. My mother is a source of constant inspiration for me. One day my husband and I were talking and we can to the conclusion that OMG I am turing into my mother?!! At first my thought was oh no! There is such a bad stigma on turning into our mothers, but a few seconds later I was like awesome, I would be proud if I turned out like my mother! I am proud of the value of education that was passed down to me and I love to learn, I am thankful for that lesson my parents instilled in me. I love that she isn’t perfect (sorry mom!) But hey who is right? But I have learned to grow from my challenges and never to give up, and I am thankful for her for that. I mean the list can go on and go! She taught me how to clean, a love of cooking and trying new things, the woman can throw one heck of a party! I love you mom and consider my self blessed and honored to be your daughter.
Secondly I have to say how grateful I am for my mother in law! Whaaaat you say? Your mother in law? Yes I said it, I love my mother in law! She is someone who I can always count on to help me with whatever I need and always has an open ear and heart for me. She is such a strong example to me of motherhood and a unfailing love for your children. The sweet Polson family has a amazing son named Joshua. He is severally handicapped with cerebral palsy. He requires constant help, much like having to care for a child that can not walk, talk, eat, he requires help like an infant. Now imagine having to care for an infant for 25 years. That would be my mother and father in law. I love them so much and appreciate the strength and love that they have shown me. You have taught me and my children how to love on a much deeper level.
Lastly I wanted to tell someone happy mothers day to someone I have never acknowledged for mothers day before. I wanted to tell my birthmother happy mothers day. This topic is strange for me as it bring up feelings of sadness and misunderstanding. Let me just say firstly I LOVE my family and am ever so eternally grateful to be in the Jackson family. As a closed adoption though I haven’t ever received any information on my birthmother other than she had allergies and the short story of her reasons why. At this point in my life that just wasn’t enough for me. I want more. But the questions that I have are out of my reach and closed to me. But on this mothers day as I am feeling so grateful for my mother and mother in law, I can’t help but feel grateful for my birthmothers choice that she had to make. I can’t even begin to imagine the pain of holding a newborn baby in the hospital and then knowing that you could not provide for her. My birthmother was inspired, strong, and courageous. I thank her for the choice she had to make. I know I wouldn’t be were I am today without her.
So thank you mothers, friends, and all women everywhere for all that you do. I hope you know that you are of worth and value in this world and you mean something. You are special.